Your 15-year-old tells you they think they're bisexual. You...

Why this situation matters

The possible answers

Tap the option you would choose

• A

  "Thanks for telling me. I'm with you, no matter what."

  Ideal answer. Why this is the ideal answer: You prioritize unconditional support and validation of their feelings. This creates a safe space for them to explore their identity without fear of rejection, strengthening your bond and their emotional well-being.
• B

  "It's just a phase, you'll see."

  Not the ideal one. Why this falls short: You minimize their feelings and experiences, which teaches them not to trust you with important matters. They may feel misunderstood and avoid sharing with you in the future.
• C

  Get angry or argue with them.

  Not the ideal one. Why this falls short: Your negative or rejecting reaction can cause significant emotional harm, erode your relationship, and push them to hide fundamental aspects of their life. Fear of punishment obstructs open communication.
• D

  Send them to a psychologist 'to see what's wrong with them'.

  Not the ideal one. Why this falls short: Although well-intentioned, this action can imply that being bisexual is a problem that needs 'fixing'. It sends the message that their orientation isn't normal or acceptable, damaging their self-esteem.

What the experts say

• Stephen Russell

  Professor of Human Development, University of Texas at Austin

  “Parental acceptance is linked to a lower risk of depression and suicide in LGBTQ+ youth.”

• Daniel Siegel

  Neuropsychiatrist and author

  “Emotional attunement and validation build resilient brains that better manage stress and uncertainty.”

• Carolyn Attwater

  Clinical psychologist and family therapist

  “Showing unconditional support is fundamental for identity development and mental health, especially during adolescence.”

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