You discover your 15-year-old has a secret Instagram account with risqué photos.

These are the options you'll see in the test. One is the ideal answer according to experts; the others fall short for specific reasons. Tap yours to see why.

Tap the option you would choose

• A

  'I've seen the account. Before I judge, I want to understand. Can we talk this evening?'

  ✓ Ideal answer

  Why this is the ideal answer: You confront the situation without dramatizing, postpone the discussion for a calm moment, and keep the lines of communication open. This is the kind of conversation you'll need to have for more serious issues (sexting, pornography, peer pressure).
• B

  I confiscate their phone permanently and install complete parental controls.

  Not the ideal one

  Why this falls short: Parental controls are bypassed within 48 hours via Reddit. You lose information, not control over behavior. And you shut down communication.
• C

  I pretend not to notice. It's their private business.

  Not the ideal one

  Why this falls short: Ignoring public online exposure at 15 isn't respecting their privacy; it's being disengaged from something important.
• D

  I create parallel accounts under their name to monitor them from the inside.

  Not the ideal one

  Why this falls short: Creating fake accounts to spy on them sets a terrible example — you're teaching them that lying online is acceptable if you believe you're justified.