Couple Test
Couple Test questions
Real-life situations with your partner, one at a time. Read the breakdown, then take the full test.

7 questions
Single life

At every family meal, they ask you, "So, when are you getting a partner?" You...
Límites claros, respeto mutuo

It's your anniversary, and your partner forgets to congratulate you until the evening. You...
Vulnerabilidad y acuerdo

You've been on dating apps for months, and everything feels empty. You...
Pausa y reflexión

You've been single for a while and feel family pressure to "settle down." You...
Límites claros, Autonomía total

You've been single for a while, and a friend insists on setting you up with someone. You...
Apertura sin presión

You've just come out of a long-term relationship and a friend is bugging you to get on dating apps "right now." You...
Procesar, Sanar, Avanzar

Your ex texts you 'I miss you' just when you're doing better. You...
Claridad y límites

6 questions
Communication

A heated argument in the kitchen. You've said something you know hurt them. Five minutes pass. You...
Reparación temprana, conexión

During arguments, your partner raises their voice and you freeze up and shut down. You...
Pausa y reconexión

You arrive home tired, and your partner immediately starts telling you about their day's problems as soon as you walk through the door. You…
Límites claros, escucha atenta

You find it hard to ask for what you need and then get upset when your partner doesn't guess it. You...
Pedir sin adivinar

You get some good professional news and tell your partner. Your partner reacts lukewarmly. You…
Pedir, celebrar, conectar

Your partner says to you: "You never help with the house." You...
Validar y solucionar

6 questions
Parenting

After a miscarriage, your partner barely talks about it. You...
Apoyo incondicional, Espacio personal

Every night on the sofa, you both spend your time on your phones without talking. You...
Conexión Intencional Diaria

You're with your child, and your partner shouts something at them that you consider excessive. You...
Equipo parental fuerte

Your 8-year-old daughter is having a huge tantrum and you both react very differently in front of her. You...
Coparentar, discutir a solas

Your partner leaves most of the parenting decisions to you, but then criticizes how you handle them. You...
Equilibrio, comunicación clara

Your partner wants to have children soon, and you're not sure. You…
Diálogo abierto, Vulnerabilidad compartida

6 questions
Money

You earn significantly more than your partner and notice tension every time you pay. You...
Diálogo claro, Pacto equitativo

You find out your partner has significant debts they hadn't told you about. You...
Transparencia, plan conjunto

You want to make a big purchase (a car, a trip, home renovations) but can't agree on the budget. You...
Negociación constructiva

You've been doing almost everything around the house for weeks while your partner has been "swamped." You...
Comunicar sin reprochar

Your partner earns significantly more than you and starts making financial decisions without consulting you. You...
Comunicación, Equidad, Negociación

Your partner made a significant purchase without telling you. You…
Comunicación clara, Reparación proactiva

6 questions
Ex-partner & kids

You start living together with your partner's children from a previous relationship. You disagree on house rules. You...
Apoyo parental, Frente unido

You're separated, and your ex changes the pick-up day without notice, again. You...
Límites claros, Co-parentalidad efectiva

Your child comes home saying that your ex lets them do things you don't allow. You...
Coparentalidad, Bienestar infanti

Your child tells you they don't like your ex's new partner. You...
Validar, escuchar, proteger

Your ex texts you at odd hours about the kids. Your partner gets uncomfortable. You…
Transparencia y Equipo

Your new partner wants to be more involved in your children's upbringing, but your ex is against it. You...
Co-parentalidad estructurada

6 questions
Family of origin

Your aging parents need more help and it's starting to cut into your quality time as a couple. You...
Equipo ante desafíos

Your elderly parents are beginning to need care, and your partner feels like the burden is falling entirely on you. You...
Colaborar, límites claros

Your mother constantly interferes with how you run your home. Your partner asks you to put a stop to it. You...
Límites claros, lealtad

Your mother-in-law makes a hurtful comment about you in front of your partner. Your partner says nothing at the time. You...
Apoyo mutuo, límites.

Your parents criticize your partner in front of you and you don't say anything. When your partner finds out, they feel betrayed. You...
Lealtad, Reparación, Seguridad

Your partner always prioritizes plans with their parents over plans with you. You...
Comunicar y co-crear

6 questions
Infidelity & jealousy

Someone hits on you at a dinner party and your partner finds out and laughs it off, but it actually left you wondering. You...
Comunicación honesta y límites

You notice your partner has been liking an ex's photos. You...
Diálogo claro, confianza

Your partner confesses they had a 'slip-up' months ago and ended it. You…
Procesar, no reaccionar

Your partner feels insecure about one of your co-workers. You know there's nothing going on. You...
Validar, comunicar, reafirmar

Your partner remains very close friends with their ex, and it makes you uncomfortable. You…
Comunicar inquietudes, pactar límites

Your partner suddenly asks to see your phone without a clear reason. You...
Curiosidad ante el miedo

6 questions
Life project

You want to have kids soon, but your partner prefers to wait several years. You...
Diálogo abierto, planificación

You've been dating for a year, and your partner wants to move in together. You're having doubts. You...
Decidir, no deslizarse

You've been talking about buying a house for years, but nothing ever happens. You...
Claridad, compromiso mutuo

You've been together for many years. Your partner brings up a topic from years ago that hurt you and was never resolved. You...
Afrontar y sanar

Your partner is excited about a major life project (starting a business, moving to the countryside, long-term travel) that scares you. You...
Explorar sueños compartidos

Your partner is offered a better job in another city, which means you’d have to relocate. You…
Evaluar y negociar

6 questions
Break-up & separation

A long-distance relationship becomes unsustainable and neither of you is willing to move. You...
Decisión, Respeto Mutuo

You are separated and disagree with your co-parent about a rule for your child. In front of the child, you...
Co-parenting Estratégico

You're in a long-distance relationship and notice calls are getting shorter. You...
Rituales de conexión

You've been thinking about breaking up for months. You haven't said a word yet. You...
Evaluar antes de actuar

You've been thinking about ending the relationship for months but haven't dared to bring it up. You...
Claridad antes de decidir

You've recently broken up and share the same friend groups. You feel awkward running into each other. You...
Comunicación; Límites claros

6 questions
Health & well-being

You notice your partner drinks way more than they admit. When you bring it up, they get angry. You...
Confrontar con apoyo

You've been exhausted for a while and your partner hasn't noticed how burnt out you are. You...
Comunicar sin quejar

Your partner drinks more than they should several nights a week, and it's affecting them. You...
Comunicación empática, Confrontación constructiva

Your partner has been withdrawn for weeks, crying for no clear reason. You...
Apoyo incondicional, busca ayuda

Your partner is diagnosed with a frightening chronic illness. You...
Apoyo activo; equipo de dos

Your partner is struggling with depression and finds it hard to even get out of bed. For months, you’ve been carrying almost everything. You…
Apoyo mutuo, resiliencia

6 questions
Free time

It's been months since you've done something together that wasn't 'functional' (shopping, errands, kids). You...
Acción Clave Conexión

You both retire and suddenly spend 24/7 together. Sparks fly. You…
Autonomía y Conexión

You've been on autopilot for a while: work, kids, sleep. You...
Conectar activamente, prioridades claras

You've been together for 15+ years and you're bored in the relationship, even though you still love them. You...
Innovar y reconectar

Your partner tells you they want to make plans with their friends by themselves on Saturday. You…
Autonomía fortalece conexión

Your partner wants to go away for a weekend alone with their friends. You...
Autonomía y Conexión

5 questions
Intimacy

After having a baby, your desire levels are at very different paces. You...
Comprensión mutua, paciencia

You haven't had sex for weeks and you notice a distance growing between you. You...
Humor, conexión, intimidad

Your partner asks to explore a new sexual fantasy that makes you uncomfortable. You...
Negociar intimidad, Validar límites

Your partner has much more (or much less) desire than you. You...
Diálogo, no suposiciones

Your sex life has been almost non-existent for months and neither of you mentions it. You...
Comunicar con deseo