Your 13-year-old highly able daughter says, 'I don't fit in, everyone's stupid,' and doesn't want to go to school.
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Lidiar con un adolescente que se siente incomprendido y aislado es un desafío común, pero cuando esa adolescente es además una persona altamente capacitada, la complejidad aumenta. Su afirmación de que “todos son estúpidos” no es solo un comentario rebelde; puede ser una expresión genuina de frustración y un sentimiento de disonancia con su entorno.
Es fundamental reconocer que las personas con altas capacidades a menudo procesan la información de manera diferente y tienen intereses que pueden no alinearse con los de sus compañeros. Esta diferencia puede llevar a sentimientos de soledad y a la percepción de que no encajan, lo que a su vez afecta su motivación para participar en ambientes sociales como la escuela. Su bienestar emocional está directamente ligado a su desarrollo intelectual y social.
Comprender el origen de esta resistencia a la escuela y responder de manera que valide sus sentimientos, al mismo tiempo que se fomenta la resiliencia y la adaptación, es crucial para su desarrollo. Tu reacción no solo influirá en su actitud hacia la educación, sino también en cómo aprende a manejar la frustración social y a construir su propia identidad. ¿Cómo abordarías esta situación para apoyarla mejor?
The possible answers
These are the options you'll see in the test. Each one measures something different — we won't tell you which is best here (that's what the test is for 😉).
- A'Fitting in when you're different is hard. Let's find you a space with like-minded people outside of school, but for now, school is non-negotiable.'
- B'Well, tough luck. Everyone goes to school, end of story.'
- CIf she's really struggling, I'll switch her schools / homeschool her.
- D'You're the smart one, figure it out yourself.'
What the experts say
Linda Silverman
Gifted Development Center
Javier Tourón
International University of La Rioja, High Abilities
Devil's advocate
Common objection
If I indulge the idea that she's 'different,' she'll just believe it more.
Why it falls short
She is different; it's diagnosed. This isn't indulging her; it's acknowledging reality. Damaged is done when this is denied AND she is forced to conform.
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