Parenting Test · emociones · 4-7

Your child is crying inconsolably because a friend didn't invite them to their birthday party. You...

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Why this situation matters

Ver a tu hijo sufrir es una de las experiencias más difíciles para cualquier padre o madre. Cuando se enfrentan a la exclusión social, como no ser invitados a una fiesta de cumpleaños, sus sentimientos de tristeza y decepción pueden ser abrumadoramente intensos para ellos, y para ti al verlos.

En estos momentos, tu reacción no solo influye en cómo gestionan esta situación particular, sino que también moldea su capacidad a largo plazo para manejar el rechazo y desarrollar resiliencia. La forma en que validas sus emociones y los guías a través de una experiencia dolorosa les enseña valiosas lecciones sobre empatía, autoaceptación y cómo procesar sentimientos difíciles. Es una oportunidad crucial para fortalecer vuestro vínculo y su inteligencia emocional.

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The possible answers

These are the options you'll see in the test. Each one measures something different — we won't tell you which is best here (that's what the test is for 😉).

A“It's not a big deal, you have other friends.”
B“I understand, it hurts not to be invited. Do you want a hug?”
CCall the friend's mum to complain.
D“Well, don't invite them to your party either.”

What the experts say

John Gottman
Psychologist, relationship researcher
“Being an 'emotion coach' involves being aware of your child's emotions, seeing negative emotion as an opportunity for teaching, and helping them name what they feel.”
Daniel Siegel
Neuropsychiatrist and author
“Tuning into a child's emotions, meaning recognising what they feel without judgment, is fundamental for their brain development and their ability to manage stress.”
Adele Faber y Elaine Mazlish
Educators and authors
“First, listen with full attention. Then, if necessary, reflect what you hear. Allow the child to express their feelings without barriers.”

Devil's advocate

Common objection

Doesn't validating every cry just spoil the child? They'll end up being a whiner who can't cope with real life.

Why it falls short

On the contrary, validating emotions allows the child to feel understood, which paradoxically helps them to process and overcome them. Denying or invalidating feelings is what often leads to ineffective coping over time, according to psychologists like Daniel Siegel.